In honour of International Day of Families on May 15th, we asked Amy Beeman, a local Bean Mama to three & Morning Radio Show Producer & Host, to share her unique journey to her family. While reading Amy's story, it reminded me so much of my own journey.
Photo by Kim Culbert Photography
I always assumed I’d have a family of my own. I’d get married, have a few kids and live happily ever after. It wasn’t so much that I dreamed about it. I just assumed it would happen.
Getting married was easy (phew!). But I didn’t realize how long the second part of my plan would take.
I was 28 when I got married and a couple of years later we decided to start trying for kids.
And nothing happened.
This was really hard for me. I’m a planner, I like schedules. I like deciding to do something and then ticking it off my list. When things don’t go according to plan (and there’s nothing I can do about it!), it’s a tough pill to swallow.
We waited the appropriate amount of time and then started getting tests done. We were a classic case of ‘unexplained infertility.’ There was no reason I wasn’t’ getting pregnant. I just wasn’t.
We decided to take the next big step: IVF. Fortunately, we were successful after one round and Lucy and Sam were born in July of 2010. ❤️💙
In amongst all that, we had signed up with an adoption agency.
Paperwork, files being put on hold, hope rising, programs shutting down, hearts breaking... it’s not a journey for the faint of heart. And it’s also not easy for a planner! Because, trust me, nothing goes according to plan with an international adoption.
From signing up with our adoption agency to bringing Stanley home from Haiti was almost a 12 year journey. 💙
I don’t know what my family would look like if things had been easy for us, if creating a family had come easy.
But I know we wouldn’t have the Lucy or the Sam or the Stanley we know and love. I guess the saying is true: good things come to those who wait.
Amy Beeman is a Morning Radio Show Producer and Host who sets her alarm for 3:25 every weekday morning. She’s also a wife, and a mom of 3 (twins and adoption). Between marriage, children and work, she still somehow finds time to run a couple half marathons every year. She loves exploring Vancouver with her family and writing about her experiences. Follow along with Amy on Instagram at @amybeeman and learn more about her at www.amybeeman.ca.